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Peeking Under the Covers of an Undercover Romance


Dear Soho,
My instinct is that the lumpy, small mattress and cobwebs on your love life are only the tip of the proverbial iceberg that is looming dead ahead of your relationship.

Barry, one of the participants in the chakra balancing workshop that I profiled in The Chakra Diaries, told me that a lover once told him that he was “mechanical” in bed. She really nailed his feelings to the floor when she said that she was “used to” lovers who drank deeply from her well of love, who would suck on her toes, rub her neck or kiss the small curves of her neck to get her in the mood. She confessed that sometimes these means to an OMG moment would relax her into dreamland instead of firing her booster engines and that Lover Boy would have to be alright with that too.

All this to say Soho, that without knowing Rhett, I would guess that he may have deficient second chakra. Perhaps like Barry, he is unhappy with his work or was unused to affection as a child so he does not know how to give it as an adult. Barry’s mother once told him that he walked across the graduation stage like a “plowboy,” referring to a stiff, rigid loping gait that was all the rage of the country boys she grew up with. Perhaps Rhett is similarly afflicted and his chi or life energy is effectively bottled-up and severely restricted from flowing through his strong arms, broad chest and compassionate heart. So, let’s be proactive and solve this lumpy problem once and for all.

Why not encourage Rhett to make a date to take you to the zoo with a picnic basket chock-full of your favorite foods, a bunch of flowers and chocolates to nibble on? Cuddle without shame on your blanket and kiss openly and frequently like pimply teenagers. Awaken whatever passion has been hibernating or paint broad strokes of that which is yet-to-come. End your date (at least publicly) with a drop-in to a furniture store and lie down with Rhett on the smallest mattress and tell him that this size is your favorite.

Please keep in touch.
Namaste. Becca

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Undercover Romance – A Great Love Life Starts Here


Dear Becca,

I feel odd writing you on this subject but I noticed that you were taking a journey to meaningful love, so here goes…

My fiancee (let’s call him Rhett) and I need to buy a new bed as the old one is as lumpy as yesterday’s mashed potatoes. Not sleeping well causes us to growl at each other from shower to cereal to parting kiss. Add to the mix the fact that we go to sleep at different times. Rhett is usually asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow while I read and re-read the fascinating tales in The Chakra Diaries. Many times I get hot under the covers in more ways than one and squirm around a bit (well, sometimes a lot), which wakes up Rhett, who then wants to watch SportsCenter to see if Atlanta will rise from the ashes. Becca, I want to be the only one scoring in my bedroom and so far I am batting zero, I have got to cure these “bad bed” hangovers.

I know the current rage is to buy a bed the size of Texas yet I am a romantic who feasts on Austen as well as Sparks and Crusie and I want my love to flourish in a small bed, hell, even because of a small bed. I want Rhett to carry me up those long, winding stairs (okay so we live in a brownstone and not on the set of Tara but a girl can dream can’t she?), and to give a damn about painting my cheeks with a blush of come hither and night-blooming satisfaction.

I read a quote “When love is strong, a man and woman can make their bed on the edge of a sword.”

Please help me Becca. I want to live on the edge of that sword, to know that love can cut very deeply but that it also can salve ills you didn’t even know you had. I know Rhett (secretly) reads your blog everyday on his Droid (he loved your book after I twisted his arm to give it a try), so sign me Frustrated but Hopeful in Soho.

Dear Frustrated:
Watch for my suggestions tomorrow along with advice from my other readers….

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