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Hear me Roar – I am your healed Throat Chakra – Step #5


When I am balanced I sing out your love and praises for your partner, your world, your god(s) and goddess(es). If used unwisely to hurt, slander or hurl bitter words. I am no longer useful to send or receive fluent communication. Instead I create discomfort and dis-ease in the ears, nose, throat and lungs and promote sluggishness in thought, word and deed.

Know this; although your body may subsist about 12 days without water or 56 days without food, more than 3 minutes without air will probably snuff out all of life’s energy and I will go away permanently. Why heal me? You allow me to express your higher wisdom to others and to illuminate your past, present and future.
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Please stop by tomorrow and read my suggestions for healing an unbalanced Throat Chakra.
Namaste! Becca

Romancing the Glow – Harnessing your Sexual Urges


Dear Becca,

I suffered through the holidays with all of its gaiety and gatherings of smiling couples vibrating with love, flush with brandy, eggnog and champagne and behind-the-scenes flirtation. I too felt a glow yet mine was an emptiness, a space to be filled – in my chest, between my ears and yes, even between my legs too. True, my body pillow doesn’t snore or leave wet spots or drink milk from the carton but I am more than ready for my Shakti to rise up to meet her Shiva and to take him for a twirl, everyday hopefully. Your book, The Chakra Diaries made me so hot between the covers. At least some of your participants must have liberated their kundalini energy to surge up through their chakras to their Crown.
Can you give me some suggestions on how to transform my earthly, sexual urges into a vibration that weakens my knees as no man has?

Elusive Ecstasy

Dear E E,

Thanks so much for writing. Stay tuned for my answer.
Namaste. Becca

Peeking Under the Covers of an Undercover Romance


Dear Soho,
My instinct is that the lumpy, small mattress and cobwebs on your love life are only the tip of the proverbial iceberg that is looming dead ahead of your relationship.

Barry, one of the participants in the chakra balancing workshop that I profiled in The Chakra Diaries, told me that a lover once told him that he was “mechanical” in bed. She really nailed his feelings to the floor when she said that she was “used to” lovers who drank deeply from her well of love, who would suck on her toes, rub her neck or kiss the small curves of her neck to get her in the mood. She confessed that sometimes these means to an OMG moment would relax her into dreamland instead of firing her booster engines and that Lover Boy would have to be alright with that too.

All this to say Soho, that without knowing Rhett, I would guess that he may have deficient second chakra. Perhaps like Barry, he is unhappy with his work or was unused to affection as a child so he does not know how to give it as an adult. Barry’s mother once told him that he walked across the graduation stage like a “plowboy,” referring to a stiff, rigid loping gait that was all the rage of the country boys she grew up with. Perhaps Rhett is similarly afflicted and his chi or life energy is effectively bottled-up and severely restricted from flowing through his strong arms, broad chest and compassionate heart. So, let’s be proactive and solve this lumpy problem once and for all.

Why not encourage Rhett to make a date to take you to the zoo with a picnic basket chock-full of your favorite foods, a bunch of flowers and chocolates to nibble on? Cuddle without shame on your blanket and kiss openly and frequently like pimply teenagers. Awaken whatever passion has been hibernating or paint broad strokes of that which is yet-to-come. End your date (at least publicly) with a drop-in to a furniture store and lie down with Rhett on the smallest mattress and tell him that this size is your favorite.

Please keep in touch.
Namaste. Becca

Undercover Romance – A Great Love Life Starts Here


Dear Becca,

I feel odd writing you on this subject but I noticed that you were taking a journey to meaningful love, so here goes…

My fiancee (let’s call him Rhett) and I need to buy a new bed as the old one is as lumpy as yesterday’s mashed potatoes. Not sleeping well causes us to growl at each other from shower to cereal to parting kiss. Add to the mix the fact that we go to sleep at different times. Rhett is usually asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow while I read and re-read the fascinating tales in The Chakra Diaries. Many times I get hot under the covers in more ways than one and squirm around a bit (well, sometimes a lot), which wakes up Rhett, who then wants to watch SportsCenter to see if Atlanta will rise from the ashes. Becca, I want to be the only one scoring in my bedroom and so far I am batting zero, I have got to cure these “bad bed” hangovers.

I know the current rage is to buy a bed the size of Texas yet I am a romantic who feasts on Austen as well as Sparks and Crusie and I want my love to flourish in a small bed, hell, even because of a small bed. I want Rhett to carry me up those long, winding stairs (okay so we live in a brownstone and not on the set of Tara but a girl can dream can’t she?), and to give a damn about painting my cheeks with a blush of come hither and night-blooming satisfaction.

I read a quote “When love is strong, a man and woman can make their bed on the edge of a sword.”

Please help me Becca. I want to live on the edge of that sword, to know that love can cut very deeply but that it also can salve ills you didn’t even know you had. I know Rhett (secretly) reads your blog everyday on his Droid (he loved your book after I twisted his arm to give it a try), so sign me Frustrated but Hopeful in Soho.

Dear Frustrated:
Watch for my suggestions tomorrow along with advice from my other readers….

Mirror, Mirror On the Wall – Step Three – Solar Plexus Chakra


I begin my days by stretching cat-like on my futon, toenails to fingernails, arching and undulating my spine, inviting my physical body to join my consciousness in greeting a new day ripe with opportunity. Once I arise from my rainbow-drenched mat, I ball my fears into a small soft, mentally biodegradable box and give it a hefty kick into the heavens. In the evenings, I repeat this fear-banishing exercise, using it as warm milk for my soul, its soporific effect smoothly easing me into a relaxed state so that I may begin my nightly visualizations.

At some point during the morning, usually after my first cup of green tea, I affirm to the Becca in the mirror that even though I take risks in both love and life, I give myself permission to fail (or perhaps to alter my thinking or attitude so that “failures” morph into positive learning experiences.) Just yesterday, one of my chakra workshop participants was wringing her hands and likening her lack of a physical love life to that of a nun. I chuckled at her purloined quote that “Men are like parking spaces, the good ones are either taken, or are too far away.”

One of the males in the group suggested that Ms. Frustrated first take a hard, honest look in her mirror and assess (even writing down what she is offering to the world), those qualities seen and unseen that might or might not be attracting potential mates into her life. He reminded her to be realistic, but not to sell herself short and remarked that, for instance, he was attracted to her intellect and humor but often put off by her critical comments lightly veiled as wit. I urged her to practice enhancing the attributes on her “alluring” list and to discard or re-purpose the unwanted, much as I figuratively boot mine away.

Another workshop attendee who lost her lover to the thrills and spills of life, creating her own “private hell on earth,” said that simple positive thinking had helped her endure. Instead of grinding her teeth and stomping her feet at the “overwhelming” frustrations and mental plaque built up from being a modern woman, Ms. Optimism had hung a carrot on a stick in her kitchen, reminding her to concentrate on the rewards at the end of her journey, and not the countless, arduous steps in between. She ended her tale and gave our hearts wings when she said to stay tuned – that she knew meaningful, lasting love was on the horizon even though she has not yet even seen the boat it is sailing on.

If you are looking for love, a strong sense of self from a balanced solar plexus chakra will give you charisma and help you attract your soul mate. Good luck in love in the New Year.
Namaste!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries

Finding Love at the End of the Rainbow – Step Two – Sacral Chakra


“Sex is emotion in motion,” said Mae West and she was an expert on that subject. If stress causes blockages of energy in the body, your sex and your love life will be out of whack. Accumulated stress in the body, whether emotional or physical, erects barriers to the natural flow of our life energy. So, too much stress may equal no love or even any prospects for it. Love doctors have for centuries recognized that moving in spontaneous and free-form ways not only demands flexibility but also the ability to change focus and let go of memories, trauma and pain.

Philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin has been quoted as saying that “Love is the most powerful and still the most unknown energy in the world.” In opposition to the Base Chakra’s links to fortress-like solidity and stability, the Sacral Chakra focuses on flowing movement and filling your need to sip, bathe, luxuriate or douse in the vivacious, unpredictable and dynamic stream we call love. Practicing the hypnotic hip swivels of oriental (belly) dancing or performing wu chi exercises may help you begin to experience the world of love that seems just beyond your heart’s grasp.

An imbalance of your Sacral Chakra may also manifest as an inappropriate focus on something or somebody that is inappropriate or unrealistic. Perhaps that new guy in the office does have a killer smile, great hair and a body worth giving up chocolate for, but he comes forth anointed with a ring finger wrapped in gold. We might practice the cobbler’s pose to encourage our life energy to flow throughout our sacral chakra or unleash and focus our creative spirits through painting or making music. Our skill level at this art is not an important measure but the fact that we are “doing it” and by doing so are diverting our essence around any barriers nesting in our bodies. As an expression of our joy of living, whatever we create is beautiful, skillful, breathtaking and encouraging. In becoming more sensitive and responsive to what is going on in the world around us, we also further the grounding that we fostered in our root chakra, allowing us to go boldly after what we seek in life, even a relationship that we can grow old with.

In addition to harboring pleasurable sensations, the sacral chakra can vacuum in and hold fast to pain and its attendant stress, damming up the free flow of energy and physically manifesting as infection and illness. We may be “going through the motions” in life, seeing the dust on the table and not the wondrous roses in the crystal vase. Our reactions to the world may vacillate widely from rage and aggression to breaking into tears at the slightest problem.

To aid in stress relief, esteemed authors and teachers Sue and Simon Lilly suggest placing three clear quartz crystals, points facing outward, in a triangle just below your navel. Next, place three rose quartz stones in an arc above your pubic bone and relax for 4-5 minutes. Repeat as often as is needed for optimal energy flow.

Namaste and Keep Focused on Love!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries

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