My instinct is that the lumpy, small mattress and cobwebs on your love life are only the tip of the proverbial iceberg that is looming dead ahead of your relationship.
Barry, one of the participants in the chakra balancing workshop that I profiled in The Chakra Diaries, told me that a lover once told him that he was “mechanical” in bed. She really nailed his feelings to the floor when she said that she was “used to” lovers who drank deeply from her well of love, who would suck on her toes, rub her neck or kiss the small curves of her neck to get her in the mood. She confessed that sometimes these means to an OMG moment would relax her into dreamland instead of firing her booster engines and that Lover Boy would have to be alright with that too.
All this to say Soho, that without knowing Rhett, I would guess that he may have deficient second chakra. Perhaps like Barry, he is unhappy with his work or was unused to affection as a child so he does not know how to give it as an adult. Barry’s mother once told him that he walked across the graduation stage like a “plowboy,” referring to a stiff, rigid loping gait that was all the rage of the country boys she grew up with. Perhaps Rhett is similarly afflicted and his chi or life energy is effectively bottled-up and severely restricted from flowing through his strong arms, broad chest and compassionate heart. So, let’s be proactive and solve this lumpy problem once and for all.
Why not encourage Rhett to make a date to take you to the zoo with a picnic basket chock-full of your favorite foods, a bunch of flowers and chocolates to nibble on? Cuddle without shame on your blanket and kiss openly and frequently like pimply teenagers. Awaken whatever passion has been hibernating or paint broad strokes of that which is yet-to-come. End your date (at least publicly) with a drop-in to a furniture store and lie down with Rhett on the smallest mattress and tell him that this size is your favorite.
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